Let’s talk about hard conversations 🤓

They’re hard for a reason. These conversations require a level of rawness and vulnerability that a majority of us aren’t comfortable with stepping into. 

But these conversations are the cycle breakers, game changers, and the moment makers.

Often viewed as negative or having to be “mean”, hard conversations can often be avoided at the cost of relationships, personal growth, and sometimes even emotionally stability. 

But really conversations like these are where we meet ourselves and the people we care about on TRULY equal levels. Because we’re taking the time to get uncomfortable, what we’re really saying is- “I value you and don’t want to lose you.”

That value could be and should be brought to your home life, your family, your friends, your relationships, your job, and the part many of us forget about: YOURSELF. Valuing yourself as much as you value others is KEY here friends. It’s the key to having hard conversations in general if you ask me.

In my work (both energy and employment) I have found that the people I meet that shy away from hard conversations with others have had very few hard conversations with themselves. (Not to be confused with constantly ragging on yourself to be better. That’s not a hard conversation its a lack of self worth which is an entirely different post.) 

If you’re struggling with finding your voice and having these kinds of conversations with others, your throat chakra is probably pretty freaking blocked. And it’s probably been that way for some time.

A place to start loosening up the energy in there and really stepping into that power is by having a couple conversations with yourself. Try this: 

State what your fears are OUT LOUD to yourself. Then really listen to what your body and your mind tell you. “I am afraid if I tell __________ this it will wind up causing _________.” Then listen. What does your mind say, what does your body say? Listen to the questions and responses that come up and write them down if you have to. THEN start asking (out loud again) WHY? Or IN WHAT WAY? 

Have this conversation and versions of these conversation without judgment but instead curiosity. Allow yourself the space to discover yourself on that equal level where there isn’t a “supposed to” response but a “this is REALLY what’s going on here” response. And just be a witness. 

When you start to dig this deep you may find that old patterns and beliefs start to come up and if I’m being honest here may be where it’s time to step into some therapy and energy work depending on what comes up for you. But mostly what it does is START the conversation.

Having this heart to heart with yourself opens the door for you to not just speak your truth but understand it. Bring value to it. You’re saying to yourself- “I value myself and don’t want to lose myself to this fear that’s no longer serving me.”

Now turn that key you just discovered, make like DJ Kool and CLEAR YOUR THROAT!